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Healing from Family Sexual Abuse – by Bajan Owl Content Warning: This article discusses sexual abuse and trauma. If you’re in immediate danger, please contact local authorities or call the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1-800-656- HOPE (4673). Introduction: Your Voice Matters, Your Healing Matters Sexual abuse within a family is one of the hardest secrets to carry. The hush-hush culture around it can distort safety, self-worth, and trust. This post is for survivors and supporters who want to break the silence, understand how trauma works, and learn practical steps to heal while protecting themselves and their loved ones. Whether…
The Story of Lady – From Phoenix Rising Q A Phoenix Rising Segment: Stories of Resilience Behind These Walls Hey Empresses, Welcome to something new, something I’ve been holding in my heart for a while now. This is the beginning of a segment I’m calling “Different Journeys, Same Destinations,” and I come to you today as Phoenix Rising—an incarcerated mother of two, a woman learning daily what it means to rise from ashes, and someone who believes that every woman’s story deserves to be heard. Let me tell you how this started. In today’s segment, I want to share the…
Mother’s Letter of Hope – By Phoenix Rising My beautiful empresses, my young queens, my sisters still finding their way—I write these words to you from behind walls that cannot contain my spirit. My name is Phoenix Rising, and I am a 26-year-old mother of two precious souls who remind me every single day why transformation matters. Today, as I sit in this space of reflection, I want to share something with you that has been burning in my heart, a truth that has set me free even while my body remains confined. This morning, like every morning, I woke…
God Brings the Rain – By Phoenix Rising Hey loves, it’s Phoenix here. I’m writing to you today from a place I never imagined I’d be— sitting in a cell at 26 years old, a mother of two beautiful babies who I miss more than words can express. But you know what? Sometimes God plants us in the most unexpected soil so our roots can grow deeper than they ever could in comfortable ground. Today, I want to talk about something that’s been weighing heavily on my heart and transforming my entire perspective: total dependence on God. Not the kind…
Self-Discovery – Finding Your True Identity Beyond Romance Created by Phoenix Rising A 26-year-old mother of two, currently incarcerated, learning about true love after tragic loss and the importance of choosing healthy relationships Who Are You When Nobody’s Looking? If you’re reading this, you might recognize yourself: always searching for “the one,” believing that having a man will complete you, measuring your worth by your relationship status, or constantly trying to be who someone else needs you to be. I know this story because I lived it. I was so focused on finding love that I forgot to find myself. …
Finding Purpose Behind Bars – By Phoenix Rising Hey empress, let me tell you how GOOD big G has been to me in the past week. Sometimes God works in mysterious ways, and sometimes those ways are so unexpected that they shake you to your core and rebuild you from the ground up. That’s exactly what happened to me—a 26-year-old mother of two, currently incarcerated, who finally discovered her purpose in the most unlikely of places. The Divine Revelation Goddie has finally shown me my purpose in life. Now, I’ll be honest with you—I already knew what my passion was.…
Phoenix Rising Survival – Magic Behind Bars Welcome to the Prison Chef Network Empresses, welcome to the prison chef network—where aprons are state-issued, knives are imaginary, and the only Michelin star we’re getting is for innovation under pressure. I’m Phoenix Rising, 26, a mother of two, walking the road of redemption, restoration, and forgiveness one day, one prayer, and one canteen creation at a time. They say art lives in paint and poetry—but honey, try surviving on a tray of grey mystery meat and tell me survival isn’t art. The Great Prison Food Illusion Prison food looks like it’s ready for Instagram golden macaroni, shiny gravy,…
Overcoming Compulsive Lying – by Pheonix Rising Compulsive lying and narcissistic behavior are survival mechanisms that feel protective in the moment they help you avoid shame, maintain control, or protect a fragile sense of self-worth. But over time, these patterns destroy relationships, undermine your credibility, and isolate you in ways you might not even recognize. If you’re reading this, you may be: • Someone who lies reflexively, even when the truth would serve you better • Someone who struggles to feel genuine empathy for others • Someone who avoids accountability by deflecting, minimizing, or blaming • Someone whose relationships consistently…
Why Self-Forgiveness Matters? Forgiveness is often cast as a gift we give others. But in practice, the most profound, most lasting relief and healing come when we first soften toward ourselves. Self-forgiveness is not about denying responsibility or excusing harm. It is about acknowledging mistakes, learning, and choosing to move forward with greater wisdom and compassion. Key Takeaways: • Self-forgiveness creates emotional space for healing, resilience, and healthier relationships. • It’s a process often iterative and non-linear that practical routines can support • Forgiving yourself comes first, followed by the choice to release burdens when ready. • Cultural context matters:…
Forgiveness: By Phoenix Rising Hello empresses, and welcome back to another blog segment where we talk about the hard stuff the stuff that makes us uncomfortable, the stuff we’d rather avoid, the stuff that’s easier to sweep under the rug than deal with. Today, we’re diving into forgiveness, and before you click away thinking this is going to be some preachy, “kumbaya,” let-bygones-be-bygones type of message, hold up. This is the real deal, straight from someone who’s had to practice what she’s preaching while sitting in a place where forgiveness feels impossible. The Forgiveness Myth To some people, forgiving someone…